History of courtship and dating
And part of what makes it so bewildering is that the script and the roles we play are constantly changing.In 2016, I called up Weigel, who got a Ph D from Yale and is now a fellow at Harvard, to discuss her masterful tapestry of feminism, pop culture, sociology, history, and economics.And there’s a real appetite for more complex thinking; at least that was my hope. It’s been a pleasant surprise for me that there has been so much interest.I think you’ve given us ways to talk about the subtle, mysterious forces that guide us.Companies like IAC — which owns Match, OKCupid, and Tinder, along with 42 other "dating products" — have perfected the art of profiting off our hunger for love, sex, and companionship.But dating has always been a lucrative market for the cosmetics, fashion, and entertainment industries, among others.I feel like that era was fun — with the serious proviso that if you were queer, not white, not middle class, it was not fun.
The people who are seemingly just browsing — the people I think of as recreational daters — are the unattached urban elite. We now have virtual dating assistants: experts for people who see dating as a part-time job they’re too busy to do themselves.) So modern people who have significant financial burdens are probably not dating and may also not be able to plan for partnership.
You note that we’ve become more "educated consumers" in terms of how taste informs whom we choose to date and what kind of sex we seek. But of course it’s so much more emotionally complex than that. For two, if you’re playing [author] Neil Strauss’s version of , which is mostly about fulfilling the male fantasy of easily getting women into bed, you’re encouraged to "think of tonight as a video game." But with that, there’s a loss of connection with your own emotions, which is sad.
Does treating a romantic prospect like a transaction or a game take a psychological toll? Because emotional connection is supposed to be the point of dating.
Suddenly men and women have this opportunity to meet and mingle unsupervised by their families.
You call that the shopgirl era — because many of the first women daters were salesgirls in department stores.
But I tend to think that the revival of interest in explicitly feminist discourse in the past few years has something to do with it.