Those in high demand can afford to be pickiest and those in low demand may feel pressured to relax their standards or risk not being chosen (and sometimes staying single is a sweeter option). Since online dating sites have become so widely used we can see how people really choose potential partners versus how they say they do.The OK Cupid blog, user data from their dating website is analyzed in fascinating ways.The good news is, heterosexual daters' profiles reveal that members of all races and ethnicities have essentially equal "match percentages", or degree to which other users have desired responses to their questions.So if race is not a factor in decision-making users should send evenly distributed responses to interested parties of all races.Black women received the fewest emails and responded to the most, while White men received the most emails and responded to the fewest.Black, Asian and gay people are disproportionately more likely to use online dating services in general, which could also be in reaction to perceived scarcity of desirable partners using more traditional ways of meeting.Interracial marriages in general have been rising exponentially since state bans on them were lifted in 1967 - but they haven't been rising at all evenly.A breakdown by race (self-identified) and gender turns up one glaring difference.
The bad news is, only responses to black women turned out to be significantly skewed.Steve Sailor found that the interracial gender gap was even sharper for cohabiting black couples.Five times as many black men were living with white women as white men living with black women, and a little over twice as many white men cohabited with Asian women as Asian men cohabited with white women. The same study found (after statistically controlling other factors) that in metropolitan areas in which larger percentages of black men were married to non-black women, black women were less likely to be married than in other cities .At least the Asian guys weren't being given short shrift on this site.On OK Cupid, black women and white men seemed to be adjusting their standards according to their popularity.
While various surveys have shown that women in general have a stronger preference than men do for same-race partners, the Asian women in the Columbia sample didn't show a greater preference for Asian men.